With social media often comes all kinds of people from the ones who would go out of their way to help you, those who support you and those who are there for you when you are feeling low.  Conversely, there are those who are down right rude, agressive and have nothing nice to say about anything!


So what do you do if people leave negative comments for you on social media or your blog?  I have to admit to having a few.  I immediately block them but of course I’ve read the comment and there is no going back to un-reading!  After reading a few negative comments recently relating to others I thought it would be a good idea to note down some tips to help you deal with those who leave negative or hurtful comments.



TIP 1:

Those who leave negative comments are looking for an argument so the first tip is to avoid giving them what they up and don’t get in to an argument.  While you may feel like you want to scream and shout with your keyboard, remain calm and take a break from your computer.  Of course you have every right to defend something that isn’t true however the other person won’t give too hoots whether they told a lie or not.  Don’t give them that kind of power over you so walk away.



TIP 2:

If you are annoyed by a comment, then talk to your friends.  It’s always good to talk.  You can vent but you can also get advice from someone who is removed from the situation.  This is another way to give yourself some space from taking action you may regret later and help you distance yourself from the situation.  Deep breath are also a good way of remaining calm.


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TIP 3:

Try and remain positive and empathetic.  I know this is a hard one.  However, you don’t know what has made the other person make that comment.  I can remember sending a really snotty email to someone once.  It was totally uncalled for and I apologised afterwards.  I had had a really bad day hence  my email but that did not make it right for me to send it in the first place!  You can also combat negativity with positive thoughts and actions.  It will help you remain calm and not stoop to their level.



Tip 4:

Move on.  This can also be hard as negative comments can swirl around your head for hours or even days.  Take control by acknowleding the comment, how much it hurt, talking about it but don’t dwell.  Of course it will hurt but don’t let a comment prevent you from doing other wonderful things.  Acknowledge and move on.




It may take some time to learn now to deal with negative comments but the above tips should help you.  Unfortunately unhelpful and negative comments often come with being part of the blogging world and social media.  I do hope the above tips give you some tools to become stronger in dealing with negativity.  Below are some suggestions from other bloggers to help you too.




Lynn from Mrs Mummy Penny says “A nasty comment is most likely a reflection of something that the commenter is going through. My advice is to drift over the comment try not to read it, delete and move on. Never engage with them.”


Laurie from Girl and Tonic says “I try not to engage, I’ll ignore the comments where I can. If a post gets overwhelmingly negative you can turn comments off. I then like to remember why I post on social media in the first place and engage with some of my favourite accounts. 


Katie from Cakes v Scales says “Firstly, consider if the comment is it hurtful or constructive critique, then consider if there’s a possibility the writer’s intention is not to be hurtful. If the comment is someone just being plain rude/nasty, remember that there are many people who love and enjoy your work. As the saying goes, you could be the ripest, most juicy peach in the world, but some people don’t like peaches.”


Jennifer from My Mummys Pennies suggests “Try to find the positive in every comment. Someone said something mean? Well at least your post is reaching them and was interesting enough to get them to take time to read it and react. Ignore the hurtful words but see the comment for what it is, valuable interaction with your content. On many social channels this will help your post reach others!” 


Louise from Mum of Boys shares “My main platform is Facebook – and the fact you can ‘hide’ comments is useful, because it means the controversial post doesn’t turn into a stream of comments or an argument, but yet the original poster has no idea it is hidden. However if it’s very nasty / personal, I simply delete and block. Trolls want you to engage with them, so doing this every time and they’ll soon get bored. Of course there’s been the occasion when I’ve bitten back as I’m human, but I learnt from those experiences and now just press delete. I totally agree that it’s a much bigger reflection on them and their state of mind than on me and mine.”




Need help dealing with negative comments? These tips will help you. #blogging #bloggerswanted #bloggingtips



I felt the need to start writing this series which I have called The Secrets to Successful Blogging Revealed to share with you the knowledge I have acquired up to this point in my blogging journey.


A word of caution though, I’m not a big successful blogger and I don’t make millions or thousands blogging.  Also, I don’t know everything and never will – for me each day is a learning day.


So why am I writing this?  Well what I am able to offer and share with you is the information I have come across over the course of starting this blogging journey.


This blog post is about one of the ways you can monetize your blog – sponsored posts.


What is a Sponsored Post?

In a straightforward term, a sponsored post is when a blogger is paid to publish an article which includes a link to a particular company or product.  Notice I say that the sponsored post is paid?  Well, this can be a fee or products in lieu of a fee but more about this later.


Is there such a thing as a free sponsored post?

Well I suppose technically you could say if you receive products in lieu of a fee then the sponsored post is free but it really depends on what you are looking for.  Let’s face it if you are asked to review a product which costs £1.99 would it be valuing your time to test the product, write up a view and include a link to the product?  Remember, each post requires your time and if the post includes a link you are benefiting that company.  It really does depend on where you are in the journey of your blog as you may want to offer some sponsored content for free.  Head over to The Bloglancer, where the lovely Jenna discusses why she thinks there are times bloggers should work for free.

Please remember that a Guest Post is not a sponsored post.  While it can be beneficial to accept and write guest posts please be wary of receiving emails offering to guest post as these are often from people trying to get a free link!


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Where do I get sponsored posts?

There are a number of ways to get a sponsored post.  The most useful places I have found are:


Bloggers Required:  A place to register your blog.  You will receive weekly emails letting you know which companies are looking to work with bloggers.  There are a few paid assignments but it’s mostly writing a blog post in return for a product.


The Bloglancer:  Sign up to Jeanna’s email list and each Sunday she will send you an email highlighting all the companies who are looking for sponsored posts.


Facebook Groups:  There are a few Facebook Groups where Public Relations companies will post seeking bloggers.  Check out UK Blogger Opportunities,  Blogger Assignments and Opportunities,


Twitter:  Another great place to find sponsored posts is on Twitter by searching for specific hastags.  The ones most used are #bloggerswanted, #bloggersrequired, #bloggerrequest, #prrequest


What should I charge for sponsored posts?

This is tricky but the rule of thumb is to charge your Domain Authority x 4.  However, you need to take in to account your analytics, traffic to your site, Twitter reach as well as all other social media platforms.  Many people will argue as to what you should be charging but sometimes it is often down to what budget a company has and whether you are willing to accept it.


Thinking of setting up a blog?  Head over to my post 5 Easy Steps to Set Up a Blog to read all about it.



Want to know how to get sponsored posts for your blog? Follow my easy steps and head over to to read how.






3 inspiring blogs you will want to start reading immediately

I am a very new blogger; in fact I never really wanted to blog.  For me I have fallen in to it as a means to highlight my love of all things vintage and to share my repurposed and reused vintage jewellery in my Etsy shop here.

Entering the world of blogging has been a scary experience for me, it wasn’t so much the newness of it all but blogging is a tightly knit community with rules and etiquette that has taken me a while to understand and get to grips with – although there is still so much I don’t understand or know!

What has helped me along this journey is those wonderful bloggers who are inspiring, fun and supportive.  So here are my top 3 blogs that everyone should be reading:


The must read blog for hints, tips and resources for bloggers:  Skinnedcartree  

The blog is run by Corinne.  She describes her blog as ”light hearted and sometimes amusing posts for those who are interested in fashion and life.”

But it is more than that.  I have found her blogging tips to be invaluable and written in her witty style.  How to Disclose Partnerships and How to use Buffer are just some of the excellent tips she has shared.  What has amazed me about this blog is that at such a young age (compared to me!) Corinne has wisdom and insight that is often found on the shoulders of someone older.

If you need any kind of hints or tips to do with blogging this is the first one to go to!


The inspiring blog for the fashionista: xloveleahx 

I’ve just started to read Leah’s blog, she describes it as one where you will find posts about “plus size fashion and radical self-love, plus occasional beauty, travel and lifestyle posts.”

Leah is truly inspiring with her fashion posts and her love of fashion comes through really strong and one can only smile at her fun, fearless and cute outfits!   I love Halloween so for her to review the CowCow Boo Halloween dress with a statement “It’s never too early for Halloween clothes” just sang to me!

A must for not just the fashionista but a must for all fashion craving women out there!


A parenting/lifestyle blog for the real life junkie / mummy:  Lylia Rose

The blog is run by Victoria who introduces herself as a “30 year old Mum of two, is self-employed and a stay at home mum.”

An entrepreneurial wonder woman if you ask me!  What I absolutely adore about Victoria’s blog is her willingness to share in an open fashion the ups and downs of being a mother and business owner.  As if that’s not enough she is passionate about helping and promoting small businesses and her services are extremely competitive.  I have had the pleasure of working with her recently and I can’t speak highly enough about her professionalism, friendliness and willingness to help me when I have tons of questions!

It is no wonder she has won a slew of awards for her success such as #QueenOf and the #SBS award from Theo Paphitis!