7 SIMPLE PARENTING HACKS IF YOU HAVE TEENAGERS

Being a parent is wonderful but there are times when it can be extremely challenging.  These 7 simple parenting hacks are to help you.  The teenage years can test us to our limits.  I wanted to share some tips which I hope you will find helpful as you weave your way through the teenage years.

 

Conflict is normal

It can be a shock and hard to accept that conflict with your teenager is normal.  Believe me I deal with it on a regular basis.  But honestly it does have a positive side.  Your teenager is becoming more independent and trying to form their own point of view.  If you need some ways to help you stay connected with your teenager read my blog post here.

 

Be clear in what you expect

While I completely understand the changes happening to my son, he still needs boundaries.  For example, staying safe online is extremely important.  We have certain boundaries but we also explain why we have them in place.  It is always helpful to be clear in what boundaries you have set for your teenager.

 

Spend time and listen to what they have to say

Staying connected to your teenager as they grow is extremely important as you will find with their maturing, your relationship may also change.  Keep spending time with them and doing things together.

 

Respect their point of view

Oh I have to admit this has been the hardest one for me.  Especially when your teenager thinks he knows everything!  I have learned to accept that my son won’t agree with everything that I say.  That as he reads more, listens more and meets new people he will form his own opinions which may be different to mine.  It’s important as a parent to respect their views as you would like them to respect yours!

 

Give them the space they need

I don’t know about you but there are times I just need a little space and time to myself.  That is exactly the same for your teenager.  Remember, they are going through a lot so respecting their need to have some time to themselves will certainly help with communication.

 

Be encouraging and give positive feedback

It can be so easy for me to fall in to the trap of being negative to my son and forgetting to praise him.  I try my best to give him positive feedback and encouragement every single day and I also tell him every single day that I love him.  I find this pays dividends by giving him confidence and showing he is loved.

 

Look after yourself

I find it can be stressful at times being a parent, working and keeping on top of things at home.  So my advice is to look after yourself and remember you are not wonder woman or superman so take some time to yourself!

 

 

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Being a parent is wonderful but there are times when it can be extremely challenging.  The teenage years can test us to our limits.  I wanted to share some tips which I hope you will find helpful as you weave your way through the teenage years.

 

Conflict is normal

It can be a shock and hard to accept that conflict with your teenager is normal.  Believe me I deal with it on a regular basis.  But honestly it does have a positive side.  Your teenager is becoming more independent and trying to form their own point of view.  If you need some ways to help you with your game plan head here for my other blog post.

 

Be clear in what you expect

While I completely understand the changes happening to my son, he still needs boundaries.  For example, staying safe online is extremely important.  We have certain boundaries but we also explain why we have them in place.  It is always helpful to be clear in what boundaries you have set for your teenager.

 

Spend time and listen to what they have to say

Staying connected to your teenager as they grow is extremely important as you will find with their maturing, your relationship may also change.  Keep spending time with them and doing things together.  If you need help with this, have a read of my blog post about having a game plan here.

 

Respect their point of view

Oh I have to admit this has been the hardest one for me.  Especially when your teenager thinks he knows everything!  I have learned to accept that my son won’t agree with everything that I say.  That as he reads more, listens more and meets new people he will form his own opinions which may be different to mine.  It’s important as a parent to respect their views as you would like them to respect yours!

 

Give them the space they need

I don’t know about you but there are times I just need a little space and time to myself.  That is exactly the same for your teenager.  Remember, they are going through a lot so respecting their need to have some time to themselves will certainly help with communication.

 

Be encouraging and give positive feedback

It can be so easy for me to fall in to the trap of being negative to my son and forgetting to praise him.  I try my best to give him positive feedback and encouragement every single day and I also tell him every single day that I love him.  I find this pays dividends by giving him confidence and showing he is loved.

 

Look after yourself

I find it can be stressful at times being a parent, working and keeping on top of things at home.  So my advice is to look after yourself and remember you are not wonder woman or superman so take some time to yourself!

 

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HOW THIS GAME PLAN CAN HELP YOU PARENT YOUR TEENAGER

 

 

I don’t know about you but there are days when I need a little bit of help parenting.  I try my best to have a great relationship with my teenager as it seems to help with everyone in the household being happy and content.

 

I’ve pulled together what I’m calling a game plan for anyone who needs that little bit of support parenting a teenager.

 

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Game Plan Priority 1:  Eat dinner together

Meal times, especially dinner is a great opportunity to catch up with my teenager and talk about what has happened during the day and whatever other things are going on in his life.  It’s also a great opportunity to spot any problems that might arise.  I find this connection to be an important part of staying connected to your teen.

 

Game Plan Priority 2:  Establish together time

As well as meal times, I try and check in a few times a day.  I find that open communication seems to help especially if my son has any issues.  Of course there are times when he doesn’t want to talk but I try and go with the flow on that one!  Also, there are times when I go for a walk with him.  This is a great opportunity for a chat but I just wish he would walk slower!  You can find more ways of communicating with my blog post here.

 

Game Plan Priority 3:  Appropriate Parenting

This has been the most difficult aspect of parenting a teen.  Having an appropriate way to deal with the issues which are sometimes presented.  Understanding that you teenager is growing up and needs more freedom is the first step to being able to parent in an appropriate way without over-reacting.  An example of this was when my teenager wanted to dye his hair – I decided to let him and also help him do it!

 

Game Plan Priority 4:  Keeping the communication going

No matter what is going on in our lives, I try my best to keep the lines of communication going with my teenager.  It’s an important tool to know what is going on – after all if you know then you can help them.  At the moment I am trying to be a better listener and ask open ended questions to encourage my son to continue engaging with us.

 

 

 

I hope the game plan helps you parent your teen.  This is an exciting and challenging time for us as parents.  It’s especially challenging when teens shift their focus from us as mummies and daddies to their peers and other passions.  It is critical then to ensure we remain connected to them and continue to guide them.

 

I’d love to know what challenges you are facing as a parent of a teen.  Feel free to get in touch.

 

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STAYING CONNECTED TO YOUR TEEN 101

Round our dinner table is the perfect opportunity for us to relive what has happened during the day.  It’s where we can discuss our achievements, our dreams and have a laugh.

 

You can probably gather that the best way to make that connection with your teen is having dinner together. Research has shown that kids who eat dinner together with family members are less likely to be involved in drugs or alcohol or indeed suffer from depression.

 

Having dinner together on a regular basis is important and I would encourage you to do it and stay connected or help reconnect with your teen.

 

Here are my top tips to help you get started.

Turn off your TV & Smart Phones

We give so much attention to the TV and our smart phones these days.  It’s important to protect family time together.  So prioritise having dinner together as a family after all the world will still be there after 30 minutes!

It’s not just about the food

You don’t have to knock your pan in to cook the ‘perfect’ meal.  Pick an easy recipe and get everyone to help out.  This is especially important if you’ve been working all day or are exhausted.

Remember to listen

Do you know that your teenager wants to talk to you?  Remember to listen to what your teenager has to say. Don’t offer advice unless you are asked.  I know it is difficult as a parent not to go in to advice mode but it does make for a better relationship if you hold off until asked and just listen.

Make it fun

It doesn’t have to be a serious chat if it isn’t needed.  Take turns to select music or choose dessert.  It really doesn’t matter as long as you chat and spend time together.

Make a plan

Agree on which nights will be family nights to have dinner.  Protect those nights too.  Of course plans can change but make this a priority for all the family and don’t miss this important time.

So do you have family meal times?  I’d love to hear how you stay connected to your teen.

 

 

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Quarter of 14-year-old girls ‘have signs of depression’.  Here are some apps that may help.

The news this morning that a quarter of girls and nearly one in 10 boys show signs of depression at the age of 14, is heartbreaking but also a fact of this mad, mad world unfortunately.

 

The study which involved over 10,000 young people looked at how many of them experienced signs of depression with those from a poorer background or being of mixed or white ethnic background having an increased risk of signs of depression.

 

 

The study also involved parents.  It showed that some were not attuned to the true pressures of their children and that parents often underestimated the stress an concerns of their teenagers.

 

It’s not really surprising as parents have so much going on in their lives.  So I wanted to share with you some apps which you can recommend to your teenager should you be worried about their mental health.  We use apps for many things and teenagers have grown up using them.  So making use of these seems like a great idea.

 

Of course, these apps are not and should not be viewed as a replacement for seeking professional help if you are concerned with your teenagers’ mental health.  However, they can help if your teenager is feeling stressed coming up to exams or there are other changes happening in their life.

 

Elefriends

Elefriends is a supportive online community from the mental health charity Mind. They try and provide a place to listen, a place to share what you are feeling.  It’s also a great place to read how other people are coping with particular issues.  The app is free to use but is restricted to over 17’s)

 

Silvercloud

Silvercloud is another free to use app which provides a wide range of interactive programmes, tools, and tactics for mental and behavioural health issues. Some of the topics covered include addressing wellbeing, life balance, time management, communication skills and relationship issues as well as stress management.

 

RCPsych Mental Health App

A free to use app which I think is more suited for parents as it provides general information about mental health disorders together with links to helpful videos.  A good place to find out further information on mental health.

 

Catch it

Another free to use app which was developed by Liverpool and Manchester Universities.  The app allows you to record your moods and is designed to help you work through them using a Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) approach.

 

I hope you have found some of these apps useful.  Do you know of any others?

 

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