You would be forgiven for thinking that dating is all about being young and about how you look and that it is only for the young. Well it isn’t. Many older people are using dating sites to find a companion and some offer free senior dating. Below I’ve shared with you some things you probably didn’t know about dating for older women.
AGE IS JUST ANOTHER NUMBER
Age really is just a number and it isn’t that important for older people when they are looking for a companion. It can matter to some young people but older people don’t characterise others by just one attribute. Indeed there are now sites dedicated for dating mature cougar women. This goes to show that there are men who want to date older women showing that some are not as age-predudiced as you might think. It is mostly adults over 55 who are much more flexible in their approach to finding a companion. I guess it must come with age and knowing what type of person you can get on with rather than the age of a person.
IT’S ABOUT DINNER, NOT DRINKS
For older women it is more about spending time talking over dinner. It is the dinner that plays a social part in our lives as we get older. Drinks can be a little tiresome so many opt for a dinner date instead to catch up and get to know each other. Always have another idea for after dinner too, like a walk by the river or stroll through the park. This is so different to how younger people often organise their dates. This normally involves meeting up in a bar or getting together with a group of friends and going to a club.
IT DOESN’T HAVE TO BE ABOUT LOVE & GETTING MARRIED
Of course when you are young it is about looking for a life-long partner. However the same cannot be said for older people. Many older people are looking for friendship or a companion – nothing more than that. Some may just be looking for a travel companion while others are looking to share their hobbies. Of course some are also looking for fun, a bit of romance and love too.
YOU DON’T HAVE TO STICK TO ONE COMPANION
If it is about a companion, you really don’t have to stick to just one companion. Seeking multiple companions means you have someone to share all your interests, travel and going out shopping with. You could have a companion for having dinner and a laugh with, a companion who loves to travel, a walking buddy and so it goes.
IT’S ABOUT TRUST
Trust for older people is extremely important. Of course it’s important to us all but older people don’t want to be taken advantage of and the online world can be off-putting. It’s also about ensuring that the person is who they say they are and are genuinely interested in being a companion or if they want something more. It takes a while to build up trust and to get to know the person.
REAL LIFE MEETING COUNTS FOR OLDER PEOPLE
While younger people think nothing about doing most things online, older people are more hesitant. So they prefer to talk in person or talk over the phone than sending texts, snap chatting or email.
LOOKS DON’T MATTER AS MUCH EITHER
The other aspect of dating for young people that goes without saying is how someone looks. Photos are so important to those looking for a partner which is why most dating sites have a promient picture. This doesn’t matter as much to older people.
Maybe it’s because as we get older we become more wiser to know that it is more than about looks. It is to do with someone being kind, sensitive, empathetic. Someone who is loving and caring, someone who makes you laugh and is there for you. Not to mention that as we get older our physical features change too!
There are a lot of online dating sties out there for older people now. You just need to know what you are looking for and recognise the differences in how to search for a companion. This is great as we are all living longer than we once did and staying fitter and healthier. More and more adults will find themselves looking for another companion to avoid being lonely in later life. At least when we get older, we will know what we are looking for, we will have more wisdom and different expectations than what we once had in our 20s. So what do you think? Do you agree or disagree with what I have said?
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